Being The Best Possible You

by: ElliottRoberts
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If happiness is something that is supposed to be created from within a person, why then is it so difficult to be happy with ourselves? Often, the troubles with self happiness are the lower levels of self esteem that are housed within the mind. Our self concept is tainted and distorted to the point that we consistently assess ourselves and find faults in everything we do. Over a length of time, that tainted image becomes a reality to us.

There are other times in our lives when a fear of the unknown can take hold of us and push us into the realm of self doubt. The fear of failing, not becoming what we once dreamed we would and not attaining success all wreak havoc on the minds eye. When reading this sort of thought, it may sound preposterous, but it is a very real situation for many women.

The self-esteem issues and fear of failure may be the only two things that are standing between you and your life of happiness. But, in order to bridge that gap, you must first recognize that these are the reasons you are unhappy and try to focus on improving that self-esteem and those fears of taking risks and succeeding. Once those are overcome, a healthy self image will follow.

In order to improve oneself, you need to look closely at your physical, mental and emotional needs as a human being. Are you expecting too much of yourself? Are your measurements of success really attainable? Has life turned out the way your wanted it to and can you change the outcome if it hasn't? These are the questions that you need to answer and looking deep into yourself for the truths will be the hardest part of the journey.

Improving the physical side of life can be the easiest of the three changes. Adding an exercise routine to your daily regime. Losing those last 10 pounds that you swear has collected on your hips, these are both choices that can boost self-esteem and thus make happiness even closer. While the physical aspect is not the only aspect, it can provide the platform needed to change both mentally and emotionally.

Working on the emotional side of life is a bit harder than the physical changes. Our lives have a tendency to leave scars on our psyche and those scars are the reason Psychiatrists and Psychologists have the jobs they do today. Practicing calming techniques and methods can improve the emotional hold we have on our lives and thus improve our chances of happiness.

The changes needed in our mental state are often those that run concurrently with the emotional changes. Mentally we judge ourselves based on expectations only we understand. If we never achieve those goals we create a negative self image that will wreak havoc on our chances of happiness. Removing all boundaries and definitions of success will greatly improve our chances of happiness.

A happy mind, soul, heart and self are all needed for overall life happiness. Improving oneself for the better can lead to an improved love of the world around us. It is believed that once the unsuccessful person stops trying to be successful, success knocks on the door.

About the Author

The author, Elliott Roberts, writes for Becomng, a Self Improvement blog, discussing ideas from How To Become Wealthy to Productivity, plus others. Read Becomng, and evolve your life!