Unseen and True Cost Of A Divorce May Be Higher Than You Think

by: AlexArcher
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Sadly, the story is all too common: Instead of \"happily ever after,\" a couple is torn apart by an affair or financial troubles, and the two turn to a divorce as a quick solution to a messy problem. As the marriage ends, both parties end up paying a high cost both financially and emotionally.

These days, our society accepts divorce as an unfortunate but accepted reality of married life. While annulments have been around for centuries, divorces are different. Divorce is a way of ending a marriage, without the death of a spouse, while a more traditional annulment declared that a marriage was void from the beginning.

Some married couples see divorce as a \"magic wand\" to solve the problems, whatever they may be, in their relationship, but sadly many choose this step without realizing the high price each pays, both in terms of money and hurt feelings.

Many people think a divorce will be over and done with quickly, and they can move on with their lives in little or no time. However, this is an misunderstanding of the complexity of the issue at hand; the average divorce usually takes about two years from beginning to end.

Also, while the price of a divorce lawyer ranges widely, most experts would say that the average lies around $3,000 each for a one-day trial; again, more than many people would expect.

Along with the \"sticker price\" of the divorce, the husband and wife sometimes forget about the hidden fees. All of a sudden, each individual needs to find a new way to pay rental or mortgage payments. Auto and health insurance change. Alimony and child support can sometimes require large payments. Without warning, one's cost of living can go through the roof.

Easily overlooked by many couples is the emotional toll they take from going through a divorce as well. A messy divorce can conceivably cause later psychological problems and leave people \"living in the past.\" Unresolved anger is often a result.

Another emotional cost a divorce process would be the avoidance of responsibility. At this phase, it is all too common to play the \"fault and blame\" game. Instead of taking responsibility of ones action, they result to blaming the other party to make themselves look as if they were the victim. In most cases this would only lead to feeling of helplessness and could easily slide to depression.

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